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Fatima's Story
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In a 2 minute video clip from Hyderabad's NDTV, Fatima tells her own story.

Part I:
Fatima's Story on Video





Part II: Fatima's Community Speaks

Fatima's neighbours, all poor Muslim women and a few men, most of whom, both men and women, worked as factory hands and domestic servants, were articulate:

"We are poor people.  We may not be able to give our children good things to eat; we give them dal (lentils) and rice, but we hold them close to our hearts."

"We bring up our children in the midst of such difficulty that we prize them, we cannot afford to lose them, their difficulties are ours. We can tolerate our husbands absences, but not that of our children."

"Rich people put their children in hostels. We see on TV shows that when the child is ill, they leave the child with the ayah and go partying. We cannot do that."

Everyone was approving of the birthsearch:

"It is good thing that this has happened. You said that the child wanted to know about and meet her mother. Now her mother will also get peace of mind. She parted with a piece of her heart and now her wounds will be healed by the sight of her daughter. The wounds of fourteen years will now be washed away by the young girl."

They say that burying the past is wrong. A woman said:

"Look, the corpse of the past itself has risen to send you to find Fatima and unite mother and daughter.  If Allah didn't decree so, Fatima need not have responded.  She could have kept quiet.  But her buried love for her child forced her to respond to you.  She has wept all these 14 years; now she has no tears left."

Another woman said:

"For us poor people, we have no pensions, no savings to support us when we can no longer work in our old age.  When you rob us of our children who support us in old age, you rob us of our future."

Other comments:

"You people have money, and money divides and makes hearts hard.  We only want money enough for our basic needs and children's education.  You people are greedy; if you have one house, you want ten houses.  You do not want poor people to get their due.  So your friends do not want even our hearts to be healed."

  They all know that the girl cannot stay here.  They sympathize deeply with the adoptive parents who needed a
child so badly that they had to pay for a baby. Now the adoptive parents must be in such turmoil, and in pain too, that the child that they had brought up and loved, was looking somewhere else too.

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